Dear Cali Chica:

I didn’t see your second post of yesterday, double posting. How interesting, you wrote: “pain in tendons and ligaments can linger over months- small twinges when you move your leg a certain way”- I was wondering about it only yesterday, not understanding why I experience those little pains still, over two months following the injury, thinking I may be slower to heal than other people- thank you for your professional (a medical doctor) input, makes me feel better reading it. I am no longer limping and the only problem, not a significant one, is the little pains and discomforts when my foot moves this way or that way, or sometimes after a long walk.

Regarding the rest of your post and the recent one: when we are young children, mentally we are not separated from our mother, so she is In, naturally. When a mother is abusive, and the I-part of ourselves is shamed and is focused on the mother, the mother stays In. We do not separate the I from the Mother, mentally. What happens next is we spend a lifetime in a mental battle: the I part and the Mother part in our brain are battling. The I-part is fighting for independence, fighting to kick the Mother part out. This is what “being in my head” is about.

Well, not necessarily a lifetime.

anita