Carien,

I am sorry that it feels so devastating now.  I know it is hard to think that this is a gift but it is a wake up call.  Emma shares her personal story how she healed.

We all need to be healthy and in order to do that is to love ourselves first.  When we put our self worth and value based on someone else then that is a losing game.

Right now you are depressed and stopped taking care of yourself.  You are mourning, not only for your loss of your relationship but the loss of yourself.  Take care of you.  Bit by bit.  That is the journey of loving you.

Where to start?  Move your body.  Walk daily.  Or workout daily.  Or dance daily.  Or do yoga daily.  Exercise produces endorphins, adrenaline, serotonin, and dopamine.  All chemicals that make you feel good.

In between, breath deep.  This alone releases endorphins.  It slows your heart rate, adds more oxygen and helps you relax.

Mark