Dear B,

I agree with all Valora’s comments above.

He’s never going to change, you know that. But I know you want to hope and believe that you can change him, or that, with your help, he will change himself. Hoping that things are going to change is futile with a person like that. It doesn’t stop you from hoping that things will change though and that’s your weakness. He knows you have this weakness, and this is the thing he is relying on to get back into your life again.

He might try to change, he might look as though he is changing… for a while. Soon things will be right back to where you started.  Because these people are incapable of change.

Jay x