Dear Anita,

You are so right! I should have ended all contact with my sister years ago. I never considered your post in the context of justice for me personally. I already decided months ago that all contact with my sister would cease when my mother passed on. Maybe I should be thinking about doing this now, not at some point in the future. Yes, I have also paid a high price for keeping in contact. I keep doing it for the sake of peace in the family. I know I will have to put myself first at some point, because life is definitely too short to keep this up for much longer.

Like you discovered, it sometimes has to be justice for yourself, over and above those who seek to bring you down and make you unhappy, and keep on doing it, and know they are doing it.

Thank you for your thoughts. I need to think on this for a while.