memories 11,

Some people tend to hide behind “honesty” alot. But actually REAL honesty is not about disprespecting other people, it’s about being true to yourself while honouring others. If you did the same to him would he like it? In other words if you were to sit and make lewd comments about other men in front of him would he like it? Now I don’t know your boyfriend, but I could bet you that he would hate it. Why? Because in the same way that you feel his comments about other women are disrespectful to you the comments  are also meant to undermine you and how you feel.He would feel the same, anyone would, unless you have zero self esteem.Make no mistake this has nothing to do with feeling insecure. It has everything to do with why he is being disrespectful in front of you and not honouring you. Plus you have asked him to stop and that is actually not an insecure thing, it’s called setting boundaries and it’s a healthy thing.If he loved you he would stop, in fact he would never do it in the first place. You can do whatever you like about this situation but what I have found out about some men is that they always seem to take a jab at how a woman feels about herself, and that is wrong when they start blaming us  as feeling insecure. What they are saying is that you are making a big thing out of nothing, and your feelings aren’t nothing. A  man’s opinion should NEVER trump how  you feel about yourself. In what planet does this bloke think ANY woman would find it’s okay for him to make comments in front of you about other women?

So all I would say is NEVER allow any man to make you feel less than or make you feel like what you feel doesn’t matter. Secondly sometimes giving a man back his own medicine proves a point so much more succintly then any words could. If he eyes out other women in your presence then do the same with men only 10 times more obvious. If he talks about other women in your company do the same but amp it up, so he gets your point loud and clear. If he DOESN’T get your point and if he doesn’t react then dump him. You seem like an intelligent woman who deserves so much more than a man who to me seems like he is unsure  of himself and diflecting this onto you. At the end of  the day if man loves you he wants you to feel good about yourself. This smacks like your boyfriend has alot of insecurities he is projecting onto you and then making you feel bad in the process.   This is his stuff, not yours,so don’t own it. If he doesn’t sort his mess out, look for a replacement.