Hi Exur,

I know this is scary, but I want you to collect every scrap of important document you have: Social security card, birth certificate, drivers license. On your way to work get a safety deposit box and store them there. Then go to a women’s shelter. You are an abused woman. Also, and this part is optional… make arrangements to MAYBE stay with (AND TELL) your best friend and/or boyfriend.

You have your own bank account, yes? While you are in your safe space, quit your old job and find a new job. This will make it harder to find you. Also get your own car as soon as you’re able.

If/When your parents find you, remember, YOU have power over Mr. Creep. You can say, “Do you want to tell Mom, or should I?” That should safely shut him up. Tell your mother you are a grown azz woman and it’s NORMAL to be independent and out of the house. (I would tell her myself. In fact, I did blow the whistle on my uncle, The Creep. Was I the black sheep? Yes. Am I still the black sheep? You bet. But for me, it was totally worth it.)

Stay Strong!

Inky