John,

I did not say “kick her out on her ass.”  Of course help her make the transition. I am suggesting giving a timeframe or else the date and circumstances will be too nebulous and this will drag on.

I agree with Valora.  Your guilt is making this decision to have her move out is not only doing her a disservice in the long run but also your children.

We all make mistakes.  Continued guilt and blame will do no good for anyone.  It’s about learning from it and applying those lessons.

Mark