Dear Princess123:

You asked: “now im just confused this Person said me he really likes me and love me and planning to marry me but I feel like all he want from me is only Sex?”

-Yes, this is all he wants from you. This is my answer for the following reasons:

1. He told you that he wants to  marry you within one week only of talking with you. For a reasonable person (and you would want to marry a reasonable person!), it is too short of a time to form such an intent.

2. It is very easy for anyone and everyone to say anything they want to say, it takes a minute or so, doesn’t take effort, the words come out easily. Therefore, there is a difference between a person saying he wants to marry you and a person taking all the action to do so.

3. If he told you that he wants to marry you in front of people who matter to him, his parents, maybe, his family, that is one thing. But no one was present when he told you these things, only you. This means he can easily deny that he told you these things.

4. He wanted to have sex with you right away when he met you, got angry when you didn’t want to, and then pressured you to have sex with him anyway, didn’t matter to him that you  were uncomfortable (“he again wanted to kiss me and hug me again and again and I wasn’t comfortable at all.. I was saying him I am not comfortable”).

He negotiated with you, suggesting to have sexual acts other than intercourse (“he.. said alright we won’t have sex but apart from it we will do everything”).

5. When you resisted him, “he continued to insist me and asking me for his sake just for once, just for once Sex”-

– did you notice that he said “just for once”? Meaning he wasn’t thinking about a marriage with you, a lifetime of sex. He wanted it just that one time.

6. He figured that his friend had sex with you, so he should too: “he started insisting me and asked me than why did I have Sex with my ex (his friend)”. He talked and acted as if your body belongs to him and to any man who wants it. His friend had the use of your body, why not him as well… at least “just for once”.

— I understand that you need the feeling of someone loving you, but what he offers you is not love. He wants to use your body for his pleasure, at least once. After the one time, maybe he will want more.

My advice therefore is that you have no contact whatsoever with your ex boyfriend and that you have no contact with your ex’s friend as well.

Also, do not engage in any kind of interaction with any man who does not want to hear what you have to say, and who doesn’t care how you feel.

Anytime you would like my advice regarding a man who you will meet in the future, please post and I will be glad to read and reply to you, sharing with you my thoughts about the man’s intents, and what his behavior means.

anita