GL that was spot on superb advise.Dahn, I went through the same as you and worked on my boundaries and now I have found that people have a new found respect for me, because I speak up for myself. And when I do people know that I value myself sothey do the same. Just remember this: you are the person who has to live with you every single moment for the rest of your life. It is not selfish  to put yourself first, and care for yourself above all else. When you do, it becomes easy not to worry about what others think of you.