Dear Anita,
To add, I will look at last Friday. We were out to dinner with 2 other couple, close friends of mine, and now ours. A great time.
My husband and I spoke about this yesterday (same conversation as that including our walk). The concept that I “over-emphasize” and over appreciate what others do/are doing/are. AT the dinner I made it a huge point that my friends were moving to Florida and they got great jobs. I went on and on about it. To the friends it probably seemed normal, Cali Chica being nice and supportive. I went on and on about it on the way home too to my husband, emphasizing how great it is for them…and looking back it was “compulsive/obsessive”
See Anita, if it was my husband and I who were making this move (which ironically we just made a move) I would by no means be as “appreciative/amazed/happy” about it.
Second, and most importantly, my husband stated how this has always been so hard for him, and now become a sore spot – because it is as though no matter what I will appreciate that of others, and undermine all that he does for me. All the love and support. I forgot how he said it exactly but something along the lines of. They can have 1% but you give it 1000% appreciation and amazement, but i do 1000x that, and I get 1% appreciation/acknowledgement.
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 