Dear Anita,

 Need to switch your loyalty from your sister/ mother and their values- to your husband and the values that you choose!

Healing, proceeding in the journey,  is about you determining the values that will guide you  in your  life, no longer following someone else’s values.

And so you put your energy where you see value. Your mother’s value was the-people-over-there, the big family in Disney World, or the happy stranger walking by…and so, you proceeded to value the (almost) strangers moving to Florida, or the people walking by on that walk recently. Abandon her values and adopt your  own.

Perhaps Anita, I haven’t developed what I want my own values to be.

Perhaps this is my homework…?