Hi Katie

Firstly, I would like you to carefully think about what constitutes an oppurtunity. What is a guy paying attention to you an oppurtunity for – love? a relationship? Are you really missing out on anything if a guy is shallow enough to not consider anyone that is not a “blonde bombshell”. I will not stereotype the bombshell nor the guys paying attention to her. But what in that are you craving that you don’t like who you are? Lots of guys hitting on you would be an awesome feeling – but why that is is you get confirmation that you are likable. Stop looking for this confirmation in the wrong places first, then you can move on to not looking for it at all.

I don’t know how a brunette is inferior to a blonde as they are? Can you tell me? Does it really hurt to be a brunette? I think it is when you give everyone besides yourself a chance to “inform” you that the blonde is what they prefer and then you reject yourself for not being a blonde – then being a brunette hurts. Everyone has a preference, you should not take that personally. Don’t let the world tell you how to feel about yourself.

Would you ever only judge a guy for his looks – i have a feeling you wouldn’t and you sound like a great person, don’t lower your standards and yearn for “oppurtunities” from bombshell chasers. And mind you there could be people that like the blonde and the brunette, it depends on what they are looking for. You need not close yourself off because people are going by looks as that does not mean you are not worthy of all the things blonde bombshell is worthy of.

I will not say to you that you need a guy that loves you for who you are. Because what you need is for you to atleast like who you are before you can love yourself.

Ask yourself what you want for your life. Right now your post seems to suggest attention and being liked – and the lack thereof has stagnated you . I say go big – if you didn’t need those things who could you be?

gj