Dear Lindsey:

This is what is in the core of your distress: “I don’t want anyone to think I’m crazy or desperate or unstable”, you don’t want him to think that.

You wrote that you gave him access to you, to a secret cabinet of yours, being vulnerable and exposed and “he looked in a secret cabinet of mine no one really sees and then he slammed it shut and ran away”-

– he spent time with you but he didn’t get to know you. He knows some things about you, but he doesn’t know you. He didn’t reject you. He rejected things about you.

When we meet a person, we see how they look, we hear their voice, feel their hug, how warm it feels, but do we know the person- not if we don’t bother to.

I think you are quite lovable myself. I felt a liking to you early on in our communication.  There is something very honest about you, straightforward, and yes, vulnerable. Not everyone will see this about you, not everyone bothers to see.

It does hurt when a man gets access to your naked body, yet doesn’t see you, really see you, know what I mean?

anita