Dear Z:

When you read advice not specific to your particular circumstances, a fit-all advice, well, it most often does not fit all. The advice to empathize with another (“Put yourself in their shoes”), so to no longer feel anger toward that person may fit a situation of a co-worker being rude in the office one day, but does not fit a situation of an ongoing abusive husband.

I assume the man you wrote about here is the one you shared about in your first thread, and you still see the friend group that includes him. What about the advice I gave you earlier, to exit the friend group so that you don’t see him anymore?

After all, you don’t really have to see them regularly (“I still have to see them regularly”).

anita