Hey Varo, glad it helped. I think it’s great you can see how to take lessons from this experience and work on yourself – very positive indeed.  Many people would continue to blame others, to blame circumstances, anything but themselves. But only by taking ownership, taking responsibility for yourself and your feelings will anything change for the better. So well done, look forwards to hearing how you go as you start out on this journey.

It does sound like basically you guys moved in together before ready and whilst I get the financial pressure to do so, sometimes money isn’t the most important factor and it’s worth taking your time. Living by yourself for a while will be invaluable in getting past those bad old behaviours from your previous relationship and learning how to be the kind of man you want to be, the kind of example to your kids you want to be. It is so so easy to slip into being lazy and blame others, want others to take care of you – so good to hear you are working on not being that kind of person. There is a ton of great advice across this website so keep reading and enjoy the journey.