Dear Lindsey:

Your objectives from yesterday and today’s report:

1. To promote your kids’ transition with the separation- “Smooth transition today when picking up kids and acting polite with ex. Also giving extra hugs to kids”- well done!

2. To promote you loving yourself- “hard to do. How do you promote love when you don’t feel it?”-  think: what choice will promote my mental health and what choice will harm my mental health, choose the first.

3. To promote you dealing with your anxiety better (lowering it)- “Was thinking of past scenarios and what’s ifs and made myself stop with the ocd thinking early on”- well done, repeat next time.

4. To heal from the specific abuse you suffered in your marriage- “Need counseling and working on it”- I hope you find a quality counselor/ therapist, maybe even a support group specific to the abuse.

5. To prepare yourself for a future healthy relationship with a man- “No idea how to prepare but I need to work on my boundaries and red flags- learn how to walk away from someone instead of ignoring the red flags”- you can make a list of the red flags you ignored before, a short, clear description of each red flag you encountered and ignored before.

anita