Hi again Anita,

Yes she is and always has been a good mother, and is respectful to me. I’m also respectful to her in my dealings with her. I’m not angry like I used to be, there’s just some residual pain left over from what she done when she was pregnant that will never go away.

Me feeling no emotion about this is probably a healing in some way. Whereas 5 years ago it would have been a huge pain.

I’m quite certain there’ll be future things on the horizon that may well have the potential for causing me a huge upset, like if she ever changes my boys surname if she gets married, for example, but I’ll just deal with that if and when it comes.

Anything that does happen that I don’t agree with, I’ll certainly let it be known, but I won’t allow it to affect me negatively.

And that’s why it will be difficult to truly let it all go, because I know there will be future changes that affect me and my child. And even though I’m more indifferent about things involving this whole situation nowadays, it will be enough to keep me from truly healing.

PS Anita: I want to say I’ll consider letting go of the resentment, but this is much easier said than done. And especially so, given what I’ve just said above.

I’m going to think about what you said about a punished mother makes a lesser mother.

Thank you