Dear Anita,

i just saw your reply- perhaps didn’t translate to email notification. Back to it…

when I hide, or go to my room, or cry somewhere she doesn’t come after me at first. No. She is angry talking out loud to herself.  Exclaiming things – why did she come to this country! Why did she have children – to be treated like this! Sometimes she will even angrily vent to my dad on the phone if he is at work.

But often after this time she may come into my room or wherever I am. Crying. Sobbing. She may say something like, “I have no one” or that if I treat her like this “what will she do.”

Or she may come in and say something like – so do you feel bad yet?! Speaking to your mother this way!!! How dare you! We would never have such disrespect for our parents. And then she may go on to tell me I have a “bad tongue” and that it’s going to cause me a lot of problems in life