Dear Cali Chica:

I was thinking about your investments, more so in the past than now, in random people. I remember you shared with me while you were in South Africa on vacation with your husband, you invested your time in communicating with a friend in NY who was having some sort of a party there, as if what was happening in her life was important and worthy of your time and attention, not your time in South Africa with your husband. That investment was aimed at a short term feel-good of some kind, for you.

On the other hand, investing your time and attention in you-and-your-husband, will bring you  a long term real life benefit, because the two of you are a team.

People are motivated by rewards, just like other animals. Pay attention to the nature of the reward you are aiming at, see to it that it is sensible and long term.

Please let me know if I clarified to  you what was unclear to you.

anita