Anita,

Pretty much everything is completely different now compared to what it was back then. I’ve been taking my boy out unsupervised for at least 3 years now and all I have to do is ask whether he’s available to come out on a certain day/weekend. I actually like this arrangement better than I would any legal arrangement. The number 1 reason I was attempting to go through court back then was to gain official recognition as my sons father and get my name on his birth certificate. As I’ve said before however, these are things I no longer wish to pursue – those ships have sailed long ago.

Other notable differences are that I’m developing professionally and as a person, got my driving license, lost 40lbs at the gym, made many new friends, and I’m building my own business. I don’t have the dark cloud and burning rage of 2014 still hanging over me. At this point it’s mainly just something I can’t seem to let go of, and some part of me doesn’t want to either.

As for me being a good person. Does being a volunteer telephone counsellor for children and young people a over a period of 2 years through 2016/2018 count?

Dan.