Dear Anita,

This is true, however, I do not know anyone else like me – who has a wonderful husband, and does not focus on him first as a priority (yes I am working on it now, but it wasn’t innate)

Then again, I don’t know anyone like me with the same story as MY mother.

What i mean to say is this, yes it is the human condition to be anxious and frenzied – yet, the level of my outward focus and frenzy away from what matters (husband) to waht doesn’t (such as email to friend from south africa) – is not common.

It is not common, it is not compatible with team work, and it is not appropriate for lifebuilding.

This is not me saying this because I am comparing myself to others, or putting myself down – but more noticing the effects of my childhood/mother on my behaviors as an adult. – and not just in the traditional “bad childhood” causes trauma that most people know – but in such a SPECIFIC WAY Anita.

So specific, something that only myself and sister know (and of course you as well) … such a specific way of acting “frenzied” as a bird looking back and forth.

So as much as most people may be frenzied, not everyone is outward, with an intention looking AWAY from team work and self focus..