Dear anita,

Yes, it does hurt to be hit where soft.

As far as my husband, my father praised him so much – and often put me down – until the very end – when things got bad during the wedding planning – not that they werent to begin with but you know what I man, at that time it was full out against him.

Heres an example of the back and forth, cruel unpreditable wavering behavior.

My in laws were once at my house and we had gotten into a big argument regarding the hotel accommodations for guests for the wedding, My father started exclaiming to my in laws – well fiances parents at the time —

“what kind of daughter treats her own parents like garbage.  look at this! do you see her.  she is an embarassment.  I dont know what we did so bad in this life to deserve her.”

my in laws were speechless..

yet weeks later, the above example, him exclaiming that his daughter had to settle because she is old and no longer capable of finding someone better – sigh, what a tragedy for her