Hi Again!

I just have a sneaking suspicion he’ll contact you again. Meaning if he does, I wouldn’t be surprised. Men love to eventually check up on their old consorts to see how we “are”. That maddening, “Hey, it’s Niles. How have you been doing? I’ve been doing x, y, z.”

When that happens I would flip the script. Say or write back as if he’s a stalker you had been kindly patient with in the past: “Stop calling/texting me. It’s time to move on. Congratulations on x, y, z!”

He will be thunderstruck. Let him be. You both are getting a little long in the tooth for ambiguity.

And going forward, throw the sex thing out the window. It seems like it’s no big deal, but it is a biological glue that tries to keep people together who perhaps shouldn’t be.

Inky