Hi Kathy,

Cheating is very complex, and can happen for many reasons. Like what Mark and Peggy said, the reason behind the cheating is important. Were you both not as sexually active, is he not interested in you, do you need to liven things up? Is he searching for intimacy?

The reason why will determine more of what you should do. For example, maybe he was not expressing his needs, and made a bad decision to fulfill them elsewhere, but you can now talk it through and figure out how to satisfy his needs.

However, if he feels that he cannot find sexual satisfaction in your relationship, it does not matter if you can forgive him if he will have the urge to cheat again.

Hope this helps.