Marta .. In my (70 years of) experience .. and from the other side of the great divide between men and women .. I can assure you .. you can’t KEEP anyone .. and you shouldn’t even think about “fighting to get them back” … Let them go, both in the real world and in your head/heart, and see what happens. You may find the universe pushes someone more suitable in your direction, or your current guy might realise it was good and come back as a more suitable him, OR …

You may be on your own for a while (and what’s wrong with that?) … which will give you some time to contemplate the previous situation. Regardless of how your relationship situation develops, don’t blame either him or you, nobody “did it” .. it happened … and don’t try to fit your analysis around him and what you would like to happen next … keep your mind open. I strongly urge you to take time to examine your heart, your motives, your needs/desires/dependencies and go deeper into yourself to see if you can find the origins of those feelings … See if you could have done things differently, see if the relationship actually was for you, see if you were “in love” or “in need of love” ..

and all the time remember ..

There is nobody in the world who is like you. You are unique and because of that you are perfect in yourself .. a reflection of the One which is everything … Show yourself compassion. Give youself the sort of adbvice you would give to your litytle sister or your best friend .. honest and frank … and remember .. you have to be able to love yourself before you can give love to someone else … you can’t expect to receive it in exchange for “devotion” .. A loving relationship is a free flow of pure emotion between people, without constraints and without expectations …

Keep on being Beautiful

Peace

Kevin

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• This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by Kevin.