Dear Cali Chica:

If I didn’t do my best in it, the relationship would have ended a long time ago,  back in 2011. That would have meant, considering my life circumstances at the time, that I would have moved back to living with my mother (after being many thousands of miles away from her for most of my life).

I wouldn’t have proceeded with the quality psychotherapy of 2011-2013, wouldn’t have learned the principles of healing, wouldn’t have started the healing process, would have lived with my mother, continuing the psychiatric drugs I was on, in the high doses I was on (free from any and all psych drugs since Oct 2013).. and I assure you,  I wouldn’t be on  this website healing and encouraging healing best I can.

You and I, separately, failed in our relationships with our mothers and suffered emotional injury (no fault of our  own). We have to succeed in another relationship so to heal from that damage. The damage was created in the context of a bad relationship, a damaging relationship. Healing has to be done in the context of a new relationship, a healing relationship.

anita