Hi Dan,

Depends whether this attraction is mutual or whether coffee/lunch is about her trying to fit in with her work colleagues.  Office romances should always be approached with caution.  Does her brother have the power to dismiss you should he not be in favor of this relationship?

I don’t know how you deal with being nervous and anxious around her other than to keep your focus on your work rather than this person.  Perhaps someone else can help you with that.

Peggy