Hi Angele,

Have you ever heard the saying “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence”.  The husband wanted “out” of his marriage even if it was just for the time it takes to spend on an affair.  It sounds as if there were already problems in this marriage that were not being worked on –  poor communication skills, financial pressures, family differences, trust issues and so on.

It must be disappointing for the person who “got married forever”.  It sounds as if she needs to accept that it is over and begin to make small inroads into creating a new life for herself.  There is also no point in blaming herself for things she said in the heat of the moment.  This is not the deciding factor in the end of this marriage.  It’s everything that went before and that, Angele, takes two.

How noble of him to be by her side whilst she gets help.  I wonder who is going to be by his side while he gets help, which he clearly needs?  It is just possible that “her” mental health issues will disappear when they are no longer together.

Anyway, you know the situation better than me – reclaiming the power and getting divorce papers served is the best way forward, or so it seems, as both Mark and Inky have said.

Peggy