Hi Melissa,

At least you know that his ex girlfriend is not interested in him.  Perhaps his ego has taken a hit.  It seems as if he withdrew into himself after finally realizing that she has moved on from him.  That leaves you.

His mother doesn’t approve of you – have you ever met her.  Perhaps she doesn’t like the situation of her son being with an older woman with a child.  Your daughter is your top priority.  She’s been in your life for 8 years – he’s been in your life for 8 months.  His mother has a strong influence over him.  Maybe it will always be that way.  In any event, he wants to be alone which means that he doesn’t want to be with you.

You don’t say what his latest text was about.  You could always tell him that you would prefer to remain friends with him but you want to be free to date other people until he learns to stand up to his mother.  You could tell him that you don’t want to be on an emotional roller coaster with him pressing the on/off button.  You could tell him that you deserve to be treated better than that.

You cannot go back to how you were.  It’s just not possible.  He has broken your trust.

I think you need to see your boyfriend in his true light – very immature – and ask yourself what exactly it is that you love about him.  I think you’ll go back to him (if he asks) though I don’t think that will necessarily be the best thing for you.  Can you work this through?  You have to decide for yourself.

Peggy