Dear English Rose,

You can’t be serious!  I don’t know who this guy is but he must have seen you coming.  Why have you let yourself be used like this?  He’s fooled you into thinking it was all lovey-dovey whilst just happening to mention that he was having a date with a woman who was to be his intended wife.  Why did you let this continue for six months?  Because you were blissfully happy together and finally, when you realize he made the whole thing up, you felt unworthy and distraught.  Why are you playing the victim here.  He wasn’t using you in bed any more than you were using him.  I must say, he didn’t try very hard to end this relationship any more than you did.  You can hide behind love if you want!  Maybe it’s time you tried to be a little more honest with yourself.

The day you feel empowered will be the day you accept your own responsibility in all of this sorry little saga, stop imagining that you can remain friends (unless it gives you a feeling of power), don’t have anything more to do with him or his family and tell him to get the hell out of your life forever.  That’s empowering and that’s releasing.

What should you do?  Kick your own ass out of there!

Peggy