Hi Katie,

It’s good that you are able to laugh in your post – it shows that you are already feeling better.  As it had only just happened when you first posted, the thoughts were going round and round in your head which is why you probably felt confused.  Things sometimes become much clearer when we start putting our thoughts down on paper.

People don’t always behave in a rational way so I don’t think you should worry too much about working this out.  Neither of them should have put you in that position but they did.  The best way forward is to have as little to do with either of them again.

You can choose how you want to remember your previous relationships and if you felt your first love cared about you whilst you were seeing him and talking to him, then that’s the best way to remember him.  If he does form a relationship with your cousin and you are still in touch with her then wish them luck and leave them to it.  Don’t share personal details – withdraw from the ‘best friend’ status.

You have a new boyfriend now and that should give you a certain amount of confidence to move forward in a positive way.  Try and put some other new things in your life as well such as learning a new skill which will help to increase your self confidence and perhaps you’ll make some new friends along the way.

Take care.

Peggy