Dear Cali Chica:

You are welcome.

Step 1- If there are no options for your husband in nyc other than where he currently works, then nyc is not an option.

Step 2- “Maybe it is best to go where he has a SOLID formal stable opportunity”- makes sense to me.

Where to?

“OC/SC I have an opportunity. But he doesn’t”- Southern California is not an option.

“perhaps in the Dallas area where he an join a large practice and have a stale job”- yes. If the work environment there is okay, he will  not be receiving calls throughout the night because someone competent will be discerning and transfer emergency and relevant calls only, if at all, if the atmosphere is friendly and respectful and the pay is reasonable for his credentials, then yes, move there.

The economic base of your future home will be his solid job. You will find work there, be able to take a maternity leave, maybe work part time when your children are young. His parents can move and help you with your children. They may not miss their lives in NY at all, with grandchildren to take care of. It is a common practice for grandparents to move so to be close to their young grandchildren.

Better leave nyc (you will not have all of the world cuisines in a few blocks of your home, but you can not enjoy more than one cuisine per dinner, can you.. and there are good yoga studios in every major city, etc.).

Regarding my impulsive move comment, I take it back, it doesn’t make sense.

anita