Dear Cali Chica:

I thought a moment ago about N who is about glitter. You are not about glitter but in making these important life decisions you have to clear the air of glitter, deciding what is glitter (the fun of living in nyc, hiking/ skiing opportunities, specific attractions in this or that job and more), clearing the air of glitter and sticking to the basics. And here are the basics, are they not:

1. His employment options are limited, yours are many times better.

2. You are planning on having children in the next few years.

3. Opening his own practice, with your help,  is risky and may take a few years of stress and distress to succeed. Until it succeeds, lots of money, time and effort are likely to go  into it without money coming in.

– I would go for finding a job for him where the staff and work environment are competent, respectful and reasonable, where he will be making good money, while you find a good job in that city, the two of you making a home there and having children in 2-3 years from now.

Fast forward, the two of you are 40,  a couple of children, a comfortable home- then, at that point, consider opening a practice.

anita