Dear Cali Chica:

So much material. When I copied notes regarding interpersonal skills, an amazingly similar thought about you occurred to me, similar to what you expressed here: “being that I am engaging ‘social butterfly’ I was tricked into believing I have excellent interpersonal skills. Yes, I do- when it comes to certain things”, it occurred to me how lacking your interpersonal skills are in the context of your marriage.

It also occurred to me as I typed the notes, how not assertive you are with people, this is why you lash out. I figure a lot of your social butterfly activities are not what you really want to do. So you do and do and then explode.

I am exhausted reading some of my many, many notes, folders and folders. Most after therapy. Regarding my therapist, I remember that I asked him about online therapy while being in a different state than California and he said he is not permitted to do that,  except if I lived in CA and went on vacation to another state of country. Which happened, I was out of the country and continued online therapy with him (free of charge). But since I reside in another state, he can’t be my online/ phone therapist.

anita