Dear Cali Chica:

This “sweet kind child”, that is you, “speaking in what language, the language of love”- this is you, how you spoke. She “doesn’t know any other language” so she keeps speaking the only language she knows, the language of love for her mother. But the child gets hurt so many times, she starts screaming, “the child just screams”- that is her new language. This is your language with your husband, when you lash out at him. And the language of love, it is not fully there even when you are not angry. Love is hidden, the ROAR you mention often, that is your new language, new, meaning, sort of replacing the love language.

anita