Hi Alecsee,

I am wondering at what point you thought things were going great.  You’ve hardly known this person at all yet it seems that she has to justify all her behavior to you.  Are you really communicating with her or are you just talking ‘at’ her.  She keeps you waiting for three or four hours but you are OK with that.  She wants some ‘space’ so you offer her a 24 hr. package.  You had an emotional outburst when she said she wanted time to spend with her friends and herself, then you’re OK with that because you’ve talked.

She’s ended it by saying you’re a nice guy and she hopes you’ll find someone who meets your needs.  She feels that she does not meet your needs.  She’s gone beyond wanting space, she just wants out.

Hear what she is saying – regardless of any problems/ghosts from the past, imagined or otherwise, this woman wants out of the relationship she had with you.  The decent thing to do would be to let her go without making a fuss.  How you deal with your own ghosts is another matter.  You probably need to let them go as well!

Peggy