Hi Irene74,

This person is not your friend. Not REALLY…

My suggestion would be to make things utterly boring to her. When she starts talking or asking you about another friend or what’s going on around town, say, “I was just going to ask YOU that. Haven’t seen her/heard anything. Have you?” So you will no longer be an information source.

Also, some people like it when their friends are a mess. The reason why she has loser friends is because they are a mess (while she is fine). God forbid you are happier than she is and don’t like to party now! Or that she’s the one who needs help!

And consider: she might be on Team Ex-Boyfriend!

Drop the rope and let her do all the work in the friendship. Don’t worry, she won’t.

Best,

Inky