Dear Alexandria:

“we can get a little more hostile than we normally would”-  you shouldn’t get hostile at all, not a bit, not a lot, not at all. It is possible to have a zero-hostility relationship.

“We both love each other and refuse to let one another go”- then let go of aggression: no more yelling, no more name calling, no more attacking each other.

If the two of you get married and have children, you will be practiced by then to provide a peaceful home for your children where they will not witness aggression between their parents, nor will they be the direct recipients of aggression. (Children always get damaged by witnessing or directly experiencing aggression in their home, and often for life).

anita