Hello Rideeta,

I know that religion is more important to some people than others but if you’ve made it clear from the beginning that you do not have the same belief system as him then he should have listened to your communication and made a decision to either accept you as you were or move on to one of the thousands of women that do share his beliefs.

You are not insignificant – you are a fully paid up member of the human race and you have just as much significance as anyone else.  Just because he is able to achieve good grades, this does not make him a decent human being.  You cannot and should not compare yourself to other people.  I know that people are put under academic pressure these days but that’s just the way society chooses to measure us.  I personally believe that this is wrong.  You feel that you were nowhere good enough for him.  Yes, your insecurities are talking to you.  Your inner critic is feeding you the wrong information.  It’s just as likely that you were too good for him.  I’ve written a poem on the subject of being “good enough” as not being good enough is a feeling that I carried for a good number of years.  I must look it up and see what I wrote.

These thoughts that you are having are not the truth, they are just thoughts.  Let them come and let them go.  You have amazing capabilities.  You can do well academically and you have nothing whatsoever to prove.

Peggy