Dear Cali Chica:

A few things:

1. Separate the anger from the behavior: you can be angry and control the volume and quality of your voice and speech so that you don’t appear or sound frenzied.

2. It is not necessarily that you project your mother into these people, sometimes you do, but often you see them as your mother told you that they are: lucky, jealous, hurtful, and untrustworthy.

3. And like a broken clock that is correct twice a day, so is your mother: some women are jealous of you, no doubt, because you look so good and carry yourself well and display self confidence in social situations and so forth.

I will probably take a break until tomorrow morning. I may post a short reply here or there to other members. Regarding our work, let us continue tomorrow. You may be on the subway as I am typing. I hope you rest well when you get home.

anita

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