Hi Sadiya,

Im sorry you are having these challenges. I know it seems tough now, but eventually it’ll come to some resolve. Tough times don’t last forever.

I hear you saying that you should have divorced a while ago but there are some financial things preventing that. Have you fully come to a decision about wanting to leave your marriage? And if so, have you set some plan to start saving money so you can move out etc? Maybe that would be a good idea. Take it day by day. But develop a plan.

Also with the person you has an affair with. I hear you took a risk because you felt this was a person worth taking it for. What are some of the reasons you took this risk? Why did he break it off? When it became sexual did it make you uncomfortable, and if so how comfortable are you with communicating your boundaries & needs? You said you felt like you contributed to it ending, how ?