Dear John:

It was in May 1, 2018 when you mentioned your current girlfriend for the first time. This is what you wrote then:

“i’m in a relationship with someone else now. I feel love for her also.. She will give me anything I want and need, she and I have a lot in common and are very comfortable around each other”-

– the two of you do  have a few things in common. She has minor age kids and so do you. She has an older, adult daughter from a relationship earlier to the one with whom she has her minor kids, and so do you, you too  have an older, adult daughter from a relationship before the one with your ex wife.

And then, her adult daughter has a child and your adult daughter also has a child, the two  of you are grandparents.

Also, she is needy and you are needy, the two of you have that in common as well, being needy and clingy. She clings to you, you cling to her (and you emotionally cling to another woman, the ex girlfriend).

You and your current girlfriend cling to each other, both. It is not just she who is clinging to you.

I wish the two  of you worked it out, you and your current girlfriend, so that each one of you would finally have a stable, loving relationship. Unfortunately, you holding on to a memory of an ex girlfriend has been a major problem in making this happen. If it happened, if the two of you made it and had a good relationship, that would have helped her kids and yours.

Now you say you want out but you are waiting for her to make the decision for you.

What a mess, John. What a mess it has been for so long.

I wrote to you earlier that you were closed off to all input. I was not correct, you were open just a bit. For example, you did start another thread after I suggested that you do.

I am ready today to make this post that I am about to submit, the very last post to  you. This time I will not forget of this assertion and indeed I will not reply to  you again. The reason: because I am done. There is nothing new I can tell you.

I wish you, your children, her, her children, and your grandchildren better life experiences than those you have had so far. I wish you all stability and well-being, together or separately.

anita