I’m sorry to hear that your heart is broken over this. It’s never a bad thing for someone to finally step into their true selves, but it doesn’t take away the fact that it left you with a broken heart. I’m sure it was hard for both of you. Her for living with the confusion so long, and allowing fear to hold her back & not allow her to come to terms with her identity. And you for having loved someone & then they leave. Though she has now moved on, that doesn’t make what you both experienced and the love you had invalid.

It takes about half the time people were together to get over a relationship so, if you were together for 5 years it would take about 2 to get over it. Just know that. So don’t beat yourself up for how long it’s taking to get over it. Allow yourself to grieve.

I also don’t want you to internalize the reason she left and Blame yourself for it. That was her own internal confusion, battle & choice. There’s no excuse for it. But unfortunately we live in a society where many people are having to suppress their true identities for their safety, or in order to get jobs, or stay connected with their family . When people come out they sacrifice a lot so many just don’t do it at all and sometimes it leads to things like this happening. I’m not giving her a pass, but I just don’t want you to beat yourself up or blame yourself.

Allow yourself to grieve and little by little start implementing stuff in your schedule to explore yourself now. Things you like to do. What brings you joy etc. start making new friends & dating other people, or start a project you always wanted to do.

also this thing about letting go, I’m seeing a lot of people mention this idea of “we don’t have to let go in order to move on.” You both had meaningful experiences that has shaped both of you, and that stays with you as you move forward.

just gotta work towards some acceptance for the situation . You’ll be all right .