Dear Lindsey:

You can’t predict or control K’s behavior, having no power over his behavior. The reason the rules work is that you can predict your own behavior as you follow the rules, you know how you will behave. Meaning, you have control, a sense of power over your own behavior.

Anxiety increases when we feel powerless, and it decreases when we feel that we do have power over our lives, the least of which is power over our own behavior.

Worry less about what K does (not under your control) and focus on what you do- enjoy the weekend with the kids and alone, in the movies.

Good work, Lindsey. If  I may say so yet again: I am proud of you!

anita