Dear Anita

You’re absolutely right on the topic of ownership. That’s the case with majority of the population.

I don’t expect anything from his mother. I don’t know if she’s right or wrong in this whole situation. I only have a problem with the guy. We haven’t discussed this whole situation with clarity. The only conversation we had was on the night he was leaving that too over texts. He doesn’t even know what I’m expecting from him and what I’m planning since I haven’t proposed it yet. I haven’t done that because I feel I’m coming across as desperate and that he should have a plan too. He’s the one that screwed up! He hasn’t touched this topic yet. We are not talking. One text per day that too about how he’s doing.

Though I’ve given him deadline till last of this month but I’m sure his answer would be the same because he doesn’t have any time to think it over or think it through. He’s busy finding home, going to college, meeting new people, is jet lagged.

My question is- Should I explain to him the whole plan and even write him a stupid script so that I get some clarity? Should I spoon feed him everything?