Dear Gaia:

About being “cursed for life”- yes and know. I will explain: I have no doubt that in the center of your troubles in life is not that cousin you mentioned and not the peers in school who made fun of you, or your teachers. In the center of your troubles is your mother.

The most important person in a child’s life is the mother. In the young child’s mind there is no separation between child and mother: the two are One. And the mother is like god (Dio, le divinita, il idolo)- all powerful, all knowing, all loving- a Perfect Being. What happens next is that when things go wrong between mother and child, the child believes: it must be child’s fault, something is wrong with child (Mother is Perfect).

It is within early childhood, through the first decade of life that a person’s brain is formed. Toward the second decade and during the teenage years, the now older child forgets a lot, and the older child feels too guilty to point to the mother as the main reason for her troubles. She points to some problem with the mother, then feels guilty and kind-of forgets again. She prefers to think: I was born defected, there is something wrong with me, my problems are because of a cousin, and peers and teachers.. not my mother.

It takes seeing the mother as she  is before you can see who you really are. Protect the image of your mother and you keep yourself sick. This is how your life is cursed- when you don’t see her as she is.

Separate yourself from your mother in your own mind and heart by seeing her as she is, and you will free yourself from that curse: life of suffering and dysfunction.

I am not going to argue with  you or fight with you over this. It is your life and you are free to choose to … free yourself from your mother, or not. If you want to start a new thread and receive other members’ input, but not mine, please let me know and start a new thread. You will not receive my input there, it is this easy.

anita