Hi Sapnap3,

Your partner of nearly 4 years ended your relationship a month ago even though plans for your wedding had been made.  This must have been really tough on you but it is far better for him to be honest with you now than to drag you through the divorce courts later on.  It doesn’t necessarily mean that your childhood and your fear of abandonment is to blame.  Two people involved themselves in this relationship and that means that two people are responsible for its survival or otherwise.

Your words are telling you that your parents were victims of their family circumstances – this is the beginning of the forgiveness phase.  Having compassion for their situation brings about forgiveness.  Forgiveness just means letting go.  Resentment keeps you holding on.  It is the opposite of what you hope to achieve.

You need to be able to release all thoughts of resentment.  When such thoughts come up, as meditation teaches you, just let them come and then let them go again as soon as you are aware of them.  Bring your awareness back to the present.  Release such thoughts with love knowing that you don’t need them any more.  I’m not sure what your inner child meditation work is but please be aware that your focus should be on what you want to create such as soothing the inner child rather than on the wounded child.

Love is the greatest healer on Earth.  You now have an opportunity to care for your mother, perhaps in a way that she has never been cared for before.  That can bring its own reward if you let it.

Best Wishes

Peggy