Dear S:

Reads like he loved you: he wanted and desired you and he loved your body (“He made me feel wanted and desired.. He made me love my body”), he cared enough to satisfy your needs, including your need for your family to be helped.

The thing about love is the Value Factor. What did he value more? He valued money more, he valued moving abroad and studying more than he valued  you.

It is not just about the feelings of desire and caring- it is about values and priorities of values.

“I would’ve chosen him over anything.  One hundred percent! I would’ve never agreed to take money..”- I see an incompatibility of values. He chose other things over you, while you would have chosen him over anything.

For him other things are more important than you and being in a relationship with you. And he chose those other things.

anita