Dear cali sister:

It will feel weird for a while. Takes time to adjust. But keep reminding yourself of the truth of the situation and you will feel better. For example, when you “do imagine (your) father crying”- remember that he cried way before you cut contact and while you were right there for him. And that he is experiencing the consequences of his actions over the span of years and decades!

I am working on your previous posts, first being Nov 13, 2016. I am a bit slow this morning though. Post anytime, just like yesterday the computer will be on until about 9 pm your time.

anita