Dear cali sister:

Amazing- as I read through your posts I could easily see your sister inaccurately projecting into you and .. so did I. Over time I am less and less likely to do that, with anyone, you and everyone else. But yes, I did, she did and we both hurt you that way. I can assure you one thing: I will do my very best to not do that again. And if you think I do, let me know.

I thought about your sister’s birthday, I was thinking about a (non material and through email) gift, something that is special to me to share with her, something meaningful and personal and pleasant enough. I bet she will like the matching sweaters and a skirt (or matching skirts?)

I hope you are safe home soon. And regarding your parents having a horrible life- I just went through your life story and your life has been pretty horrible, no less- if not more- than your parents, so focus on you- it is time to do right by yourself!

anita